THIS TO SHALL PASS! Have you ever noticed that some people are purposed to make you quit. Don’t give up. They secretly envy you and think you don’t know it. Don’t allow people to keep you from your gtreatness. Being great is as simple as showing up, and being your authentic self. Be the best version of you that you can be. I have shared this on my show, and I will share it again. Fine a reason. Find the motivation in everything that you do. It’s not uncommon to have a blanket motivation for life, but what has helped me to get from one place to the next, to continue, is to find the motivation in whatever project I’m doing at that moment. Don’t let others distract you from purpose. You will  never truly respect yourself until you have finished something. When you can continue through blood sweat and tears, you have become unstoppable. Take it from me, I know what it is to quit, and I now know what it means to be unstoppable. DON’T QUIT. FIND A REASON! #Sheddingtheweight #LIVE




imagesWithin the last 30 days two of my co-workers, females, have had a heart attack. Unfortunately, one is no longer with us, and the other is in the hospital. To say the least, both have caused me to pause and to rethink things. As women, we are challenged to be great. Either because we are proving that we can perform the task at hand just as good, as any man or, we’ve made some choices that demand a great deal of our time and energy. Learning to balance both can be overwhelming.  Proving that we can do a job as great as any man is a fallacy. There are jobs that men do well and, there are jobs that women do well, either way better than should never be a reason. Men are built different and have the ability to handle somethings that women just can’t and for the most part, don’t want to handle. Somewhere along the line we have gotten off track trying to prove our worth, at least in my mind. I have read articles after articles that shout we don’t need men or that we don’t need any help. There are somethings I just don’t want to do. Nancy Reagan said it best, when she said, “It takes a village”.

I’m sure I’ll get all kinds of flak from the feminist movements, and others. I don’t care. A man can tell you he can nurture a child as good as any women but, I have to tell you it’s just not true. He can supply a need, he can love and, he can definitely gather the resources and there may be no lack but, nurturing is a women’s gift. Just like protecting and covering is a man’s.  To believe this, you would have to believe in the biblical order for things. Therefore, as I see it, it’s not really up for discussion. I simply want to say, ladies, take care of you.  Do what you can, and get help where you need it.  Don’t try to bring home the bacon and fry it up in a pan. Never letting him forget he’s a man well, I don’t think you should.  Just like I don’t think he should let you forget you’re a woman.Heart_Attack_warning_women

Lastly, if it’s too much, no matter what it is, know your limits and still push your boarders and reach for new heights. You are great and, you can do great things, just don’t sacrifice your health for it.  I’ll miss you Reba.  Get well soon ML. #RWRTLive #sheddingtheweight


I’m A Finisher;

woman-and-starting-line-in-raceGET ON YOUR MARK, GET SET, GO! For those of you who have been waiting, here it is. I declared in 2016 I was shedding the weight and it has started. In examining the weight I want to shed, I have to say that I have known for a while that, I AM A FINISHER. I’m going to confess right now. My issue has never been finishing anything, it has always been starting.  For some reason it is so hard for me to start almost anything that will require in depth work. It just seems challenging at times to get started if I know going in it will be a long haul. Primarily because I put my all into everything I do. Unless it’s arranging flowers or decorating a room, I’m not always eager to jump in. Perhaps it’s because, I’m a finisher and once I dig in, I don’t want to stop until it’s finished. Yup; I’m that person. If I move into a house today, I’m unpacking the boxes right away and, within two to three days I have moved completely in.  Sometimes, depending on the time of day I arrive at the home, I could possibly finish in 24 hours.

Finishing has always been my strong suit. Starting is where I need help. Not sure why this is. Perhaps I have a deep fear that I won’t be able to finish thus pushing me to not stop until it is finished, hmmm!  It’s odd how I begrudge starting any project. The idea of committing so much of my time or, just knowing that I have to see it through once I start, sometimes overwhelms my mind. I begin to look at all my options and then tell myself what I will have to sacrifice once I start. The funny thing about all of this is I eventually start. I know, if I don’t start, I can’t do my favorite thing to do and that is, I can’t finish. Now for some, this may be an unusual circumstance, I’m not sure. What I do know is, recognizing your own personal challenge is required to get over the hump so you can begin to shed the excess weight of life that so easily besets you. The idea of shedding the weight can be overwhelming but it doesn’t have to be. I’m not ashamed of this.  In fact, I’m ecstatic that I recognize it and I’m willing to own up to it. Now I think I’ll start….. shedding the weight that is. #sheddingtheweight

It’s Good To Dream

desire to succeedThere are at least two definitions for the word dream – 1. a series of thoughts,
images, and sensations occurring in a person’s mind during sleep and, 2.-contemplating the possibility of doing something or that something might be the case. Either one of these things offers you a world of possibilities. The good news is that, whether they materialize or not, they give you hope.  It’s said that, our brain pulls together the information that we need and disregards the stuff that we don’t. Often I call this background noise. I seldom dream when I’m sleeping and when I do, I generally remember the dream for days to come. Often I have tried to interpret the dream or have shared the dream with someone in hopes of getting it interpreted. My point is, dreaming opens up a world of adventure that you might not otherwise explore. 

At best, dreaming can challenge us to do bigger things, follow our passions, challenge ourselves and maybe even make a difference in the world. Most of us, including me, live well below our potential. We often think we are doing great things but, if we were to tap into the things we dream about, we would be doing so much more.  Of course, I don’t want to make any new years resolutions. I despise them.  But, I tell you of a truth, in 2016, I will be pursuing some of the dreams I have only talked and thought about. If not now, when? If not me then who?  Oprah has a new commercial out for weight watchers where she says, “If not now, when”. It’s been resonating with me and my dreams. Look up and live is what I have been hearing every day. WHAT ABOUT YOU? WHAT WILL YOU DO WITH YOUR DREAMS?  #Dream 



images Life has taught me to realize that people can often leave you with a feeling of dissolution. They pull on you emotionally, mentally, spiritually and physically for their own agenda.  In fact, if you’re not careful, you look up, and your days have been spent doing it their way.  What I love about a good sense of self, self-worth and love, yes I meant to say what I love about love, is that it drives away all fear.  Fear equals; doubt, shame, embarrassment, disappointment, mediocrity, ignorance, depression, etc., etc., etc.  Well, you get the idea. Anything opposite of love is fear. If it’s not fear itself, it produces fear and, therefore, is the bi-product of fear.  I’m just glad I understand what drives me and why I love.  Yes, I’m still discovering what I love, but in doing so, I refuse to stop being love or receiving love.  I listened to the new Foresight CD by Stephen Kee-Author and, it reminded me of love.  “What’s it all about Alfie?” image001

 At the end of the day the CD makes you laugh, cry, smile and definitely ponder life.  It challenges you to live from the inside out and, to be authentic in your responses.   Being honest about where you find yourself in life is a natural expectation after hearing this CD. The lyrical composition, sultry jazz of Terri Kee and acoustic funk forces you to let your creative juices flow.  You can’t help but to tap into you. More than anything, this CD makes you realize you are no “STRANGER” to life.  It challenges you to live from the inside out and, reminds you to get out of your “COMFORT ZONE”. Moreover, you realize, you are “BETTER THAN THIS”. Stephen’s wife Stacy’s decision to sing on the CD reminds us that love and trust are one. Yeah Man!

#Kee2Life #foresight

I Don’t Fuss With My Hair!

I DON’T FUSS WITH MY HAIR ANYMORE – The older I get the more I realize it’s just hair. I use to argue with my hair. I would tell it, go left, go right, go up, go down, make curls or be straight. When I was really angry I would tell it, “It’s my way or the highway”. That generally meant weave.

TODAY I DON’T FUSS WITH MY HAIR – When I wake up in the morning my hair tells me where it’s going. It tells me if it’s going left or going right, if it’s going up or going down. My hair tells me if it will make curls, or if it want to be straight.

FINALLY – Some days it decides not to cooperate at all and, we decide together. I’ve learned to laugh and simply say, I love you. IT’S JUST HAIR!