293412-home-4Remember the song by Dionne Warwick?  I’ll never fall in love again? Specifically, the part where she says, “Don’t tell me what it’s all about Cause I’ve been there and I’m glad I’m out. Out of those chains, those chains that bind you. That is why I’m here to remind you.”

This song came across my mind this morning and I couldn’t help but laugh to myself. This song was my mantra. Today, 2016, all I want to do is fall in love. Life has a way of knocking you down, dragging you around and making you think you can’t get back up again. Words to live by; YOU CAN LIVE AGAIN. Yes, you have to do the work, but you can love, live and laugh again. What do you get when you fall in love? You get fulfilment. You get a smile that’s hard to erase. Yes, you even get to kiss life over and over again. Don’t give up on yourself and don’t quit on life. Remember, singing is great but the lyrics are just as important. I love Dionne Warwick though. PS – And who needs someone reminding them that they shouldn’t fall in love again. Get rid of that person.  For real women everywhere.  #RealWomenLove #RWRTLive #Love

What do you get when you fall in love?

A guy with a pin to burst your bubble

That’s what you get for all your trouble

I’ll never fall in love again

I’ll never fall in love again

What do you get when you kiss a guy?

You get enough germs to catch pneumonia

After you do, he’ll never phone ya

I’ll never fall in love again

Dontcha know that I’ll never fall in love again?

Don’t tell me what it’s all about

Cause I’ve been there and I’m glad I’m out

Out of those chains, those chains that bind you

That is why I’m here to remind you

What do you get when you fall in love?

You only get lies and pain and sorrow

So far at least until tomorrow

I’ll never fall in love again

No, no, I’ll never fall in love again

Ahh, out of those chains, those chains that bind you

That is why I’m here to remind you

What do you get when you fall in love?

You only get lies and pain and sorrow

So far at least until tomorrow

I’ll never fall in love again

Dontcha know that I’ll never fall in love again

I’ll never fall in love again


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Good Morning Real Women – It’s been a while since I’ve written.  Don’t ask me why, I’m not sure myself. Recently I attended a workshop where I was forced to ask myself three (3) questions; What’s great? What’s missing and, Why are you here? In doing so, I began to realize more than ever, things are rarely black and white. What’s great actually stunned me. Do I have great things going on in my life? And, of all the things that I have going on, are they REALLY great? What makes something great? This was going to be a long session if I couldn’t get past the first question. OH LORD; In my grandsons voice.

Then there was the question, what’s missing? Now this was a million dollar question. To answer this, I had to know what was great. So, I began to write;  What’s great? My kids, My work, My love for laughter, My obsession with coffee, My ability to love, My home and more than anything, My ability to begin again. OK good.  Maybe nDance_in_the_Rainot the perfect answers to some but, I’m satisfied. Now the really hard question, what’s missing? Surprisingly not so hard at all.  If you are anything like me, we always know what’s missing. We just don’t know why. What’s missing? Fulfillment, Someone to love me back, Relationship….  Wait a minute, how could I have such a strong passion to love and yet no lover in my life. This was a question for superman. Oh, I don’t know him (lol). Perhaps I’ll ask God during my morning up of coffee. Immediately I heard, I’m here. I never left you. I will never leave you nor forsake you. My next thought; Is it your natural man looking for relationship or your spiritual man. Either way, to have a friend you must show yourself friendly.  Then I thought; I have a lot of work to do. Yup, me. A lot of work to do. It’s not over.

Well, don’t go anywhere. We still have to answer the question why are you here? This is easy for me. I’ve long thought of this question and, answering it is never a challenge. I’m here to revolutionize how man (male or female) thinks about himself.  It’s a passion I can’t shake. It’s the reason I do the Saturday morning blog talk show and more. I am both motivated and passionate about the subject. What about you? Be willing to ask yourself the hard questions. Sure, you may realize that there are areas in your life that need to be strengthened but, you will definitely rediscover your reason. I’m grateful for this challenge. Now I am specifically asking the questions relative to specific areas in my life.  I am, one day at a time, challenging myself to discover WHAT’S GREAT, WHAT’S MISSING AND WHY I AM HERE?  Love Susan – Real Women-Real Talk. #RWRTLive, #mgcc  susankeeministries@gmail.com, unspecified



unspecifiedWINNING IN RELATIONSHIPS; Have you ever been in a relationship that you thought was just great and then the person stopped calling, stopped coming by, and stopped seeking you out. You begin to reason within your mind that they have an issue or there was something that you did. Perhaps you don’t get along with them as well as you thought. The truth of the matter is; it requires a force within to pursue. Simply put, making a decision to stay to yourself, or do whatever you love to do, is easy. Extending yourself can be a very difficult task.  It looks flawless for some because they have practiced.

There are many areas in our life that demand more of us than what we think we have to give. Some things require finance; some things require assets that we don’t necessarily possess, other things, require help. For those particular things, the reality is, we can’t do it by ourselves we need others input. What you can do is, establish and create great relationships.  You can do this by answering the phone, responding to a text, letting someone know how much you care, or even sharing your gifts and talents.

There are so many personalities out there in the world. There are those that obviously we mesh well with, and yet, there are others that may rub us the wrong way.  This is no different than the pearl that requires the rubbing of sand (friction) to be perfected. Those relationships where the person agrees with everything you say and, they want to do whatever you are doing, generally do not expose you to greater.  It’s the challenging relationships where the contradiction comes in that one should thrive for.  When seemingly people are the opposite of maybe who you are, or when a person does not necessarily agree with everything you’re saying.  These relationships force you to dig deeper in order to endure.  While they can be a struggle, ultimately they are rewarding.  Yes, they may require more work and one may have to extend themselves beyond themselves to make the relationship work.  But, relationship building is a choice. Your ability to get along and to create great relationships is based on your ability to love unconditionally. Give yourself permission to WIN IN RELATIONSHIPS! I HAVE…..

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THERE’S GOT TO BE MORE – This morning I wanted to post “there’s got to be more” but felt you would hear the uncertainty in my penmanship concerning next. Now I know why they call it the five (5) year itch. However, I don’t think it actually happens in the 5th year. I think the itch happens when you’re entering the 5th year.  There are 4 seasons in a year.  Each season represents a turn, a change. Winter is our cold but sterilizing period. Spring is our creative and launching period. Summer is when we are in our fullness and fall is when all that can’t stand what’s to come, falls off.  At least this is my take on the 4 seasons. Once you have experienced all of this where do you go?  The reality is, winter starts again and, once again you endure a cold and sterilizing period. A period, by the way, that is much needed if you are to be your authentic self (rid of free radicals). It’s the greatest time to be in touch with your creator and to be healed. What makes me nervous is that, I also know change is inevitable. You sense greatness and what God has for you but, you fear responsibility, the what if’s and more. Stop listening to the voices and move with the season. THERE is where the fullness of the Godhead bodily (the full of God) is revealed #sheddingtheweight #RWRTLive 







Staying objective in the face of adversity can be difficult

When relationship is broken or enduring struggle, your mind can often play tricks on you. You begin to ask yourself if people are really in your corner. This is why, I often fall back on the scripture that says, “Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.” Philippians 4:8

It’s like finally, after you have tried everything else, in conclusion, change your mind. I’ll be the first to admit, when overwhelmed with cares; the first struggle is trying to think on lovely things. Let’s be honest, at times we want to grab the situation and arrest it. Whatever that looks like? Apprehend it. However, how to do that remains the problem.

I recently shared with a friend that, a 30 day sabbatical is always appropriate. The instruction to change my thoughts and to step back allows me to get strengthened and prepare for the battle. Sure it is a battle.  It’s, as Joyce Myer would say, a battle of the mind. Whatever we think on, we will eventually do. Whatever we do is a result of whatever we have been thinking on.

Chinese Philosopher, Lao Tzu said, “watch your thoughts, they become words, watch your words, they become actions, watch your actions, they become habits, watch your habits, they become character, watch your character, it becomes your destiny”. #sheddingtheweight #RWRTLive http://h.theapp.mobi/realwomenrealtalklive


THIS TO SHALL PASS! Have you ever noticed that some people are purposed to make you quit. Don’t give up. They secretly envy you and think you don’t know it. Don’t allow people to keep you from your gtreatness. Being great is as simple as showing up, and being your authentic self. Be the best version of you that you can be. I have shared this on my show, and I will share it again. Fine a reason. Find the motivation in everything that you do. It’s not uncommon to have a blanket motivation for life, but what has helped me to get from one place to the next, to continue, is to find the motivation in whatever project I’m doing at that moment. Don’t let others distract you from purpose. You will  never truly respect yourself until you have finished something. When you can continue through blood sweat and tears, you have become unstoppable. Take it from me, I know what it is to quit, and I now know what it means to be unstoppable. DON’T QUIT. FIND A REASON! #Sheddingtheweight #LIVE





imagesWithin the last 30 days two of my co-workers, females, have had a heart attack. Unfortunately, one is no longer with us, and the other is in the hospital. To say the least, both have caused me to pause and to rethink things. As women, we are challenged to be great. Either because we are proving that we can perform the task at hand just as good, as any man or, we’ve made some choices that demand a great deal of our time and energy. Learning to balance both can be overwhelming.  Proving that we can do a job as great as any man is a fallacy. There are jobs that men do well and, there are jobs that women do well, either way better than should never be a reason. Men are built different and have the ability to handle somethings that women just can’t and for the most part, don’t want to handle. Somewhere along the line we have gotten off track trying to prove our worth, at least in my mind. I have read articles after articles that shout we don’t need men or that we don’t need any help. There are somethings I just don’t want to do. Nancy Reagan said it best, when she said, “It takes a village”.

I’m sure I’ll get all kinds of flak from the feminist movements, and others. I don’t care. A man can tell you he can nurture a child as good as any women but, I have to tell you it’s just not true. He can supply a need, he can love and, he can definitely gather the resources and there may be no lack but, nurturing is a women’s gift. Just like protecting and covering is a man’s.  To believe this, you would have to believe in the biblical order for things. Therefore, as I see it, it’s not really up for discussion. I simply want to say, ladies, take care of you.  Do what you can, and get help where you need it.  Don’t try to bring home the bacon and fry it up in a pan. Never letting him forget he’s a man well, I don’t think you should.  Just like I don’t think he should let you forget you’re a woman.Heart_Attack_warning_women

Lastly, if it’s too much, no matter what it is, know your limits and still push your boarders and reach for new heights. You are great and, you can do great things, just don’t sacrifice your health for it.  I’ll miss you Reba.  Get well soon ML. #RWRTLive #sheddingtheweight


I’m A Finisher;

woman-and-starting-line-in-raceGET ON YOUR MARK, GET SET, GO! For those of you who have been waiting, here it is. I declared in 2016 I was shedding the weight and it has started. In examining the weight I want to shed, I have to say that I have known for a while that, I AM A FINISHER. I’m going to confess right now. My issue has never been finishing anything, it has always been starting.  For some reason it is so hard for me to start almost anything that will require in depth work. It just seems challenging at times to get started if I know going in it will be a long haul. Primarily because I put my all into everything I do. Unless it’s arranging flowers or decorating a room, I’m not always eager to jump in. Perhaps it’s because, I’m a finisher and once I dig in, I don’t want to stop until it’s finished. Yup; I’m that person. If I move into a house today, I’m unpacking the boxes right away and, within two to three days I have moved completely in.  Sometimes, depending on the time of day I arrive at the home, I could possibly finish in 24 hours.

Finishing has always been my strong suit. Starting is where I need help. Not sure why this is. Perhaps I have a deep fear that I won’t be able to finish thus pushing me to not stop until it is finished, hmmm!  It’s odd how I begrudge starting any project. The idea of committing so much of my time or, just knowing that I have to see it through once I start, sometimes overwhelms my mind. I begin to look at all my options and then tell myself what I will have to sacrifice once I start. The funny thing about all of this is I eventually start. I know, if I don’t start, I can’t do my favorite thing to do and that is, I can’t finish. Now for some, this may be an unusual circumstance, I’m not sure. What I do know is, recognizing your own personal challenge is required to get over the hump so you can begin to shed the excess weight of life that so easily besets you. The idea of shedding the weight can be overwhelming but it doesn’t have to be. I’m not ashamed of this.  In fact, I’m ecstatic that I recognize it and I’m willing to own up to it. Now I think I’ll start….. shedding the weight that is. #sheddingtheweight